When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

Live your life as if every moment was a gift and celebrate that it has been given to you.

I choose to accept rather than expect!

I upgrade my consciousness to be Always Growing.

I am present! Right here, Right now!

Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. — Harold Whitman

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them. — Albert Einstein

The more fun you have, the greater your value to yourself and to your society. The more fun you share with others, the more fun you have. 

the Oaqui

The victim complains with a blaming voice,
Making excuses, weaving story after story.
The victor sees clearly and makes a choice,
Being authentic, he lives in full glory.  
S. Bauer

 I involve my family and seek to create fun-fun for everyone.

October 2010

Spare the Rod! Spoil the Child.

You have heard the old adage. 

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

What if they have it all wrong? What if they are putting em-phasis on the wrong sy-lable?

I am choosing not to go into any detail on the origins of the phrase. I am simply giving an alternative way of looking at it. A way that promotes compassion and communication.

Here is the alternative way I am looking this:

Spare the rod!

Meaning use it for something else like a broom stick or a baseball bat,  or anything else. Just spare the rod from being used on the child.

Spoil the child!

What are we so afraid of? That if we give our children to much love affection and attention they will be spoiled?

I am not saying in any way  that you give them whatever they want, whenever they want it. That if they throw a fit you give in to their demands. I am saying that discipline can be done in a loving, compassionate way that doesn't involve a "rod" of any kind or other kinds of punishment.

I am saying to spoil them with love, kindness, affection, etc. while holding true to your own values.

Maybe we can create an alternative adage:

Spare the child, spoil the rod. (let the rod get eaten by termites)

Feeling grateful,

Bhagavan

I invite your comments.

 

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