When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

Live your life as if every moment was a gift and celebrate that it has been given to you.

I choose to accept rather than expect!

I upgrade my consciousness to be Always Growing.

I am present! Right here, Right now!

Don't ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive. — Harold Whitman

Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them. — Albert Einstein

The more fun you have, the greater your value to yourself and to your society. The more fun you share with others, the more fun you have. 

the Oaqui

The victim complains with a blaming voice,
Making excuses, weaving story after story.
The victor sees clearly and makes a choice,
Being authentic, he lives in full glory.  
S. Bauer

 I involve my family and seek to create fun-fun for everyone.

"Mine is Better Than Yours": The Dangers of Comparison

How might you feel if someone were to say to you, “Your son can't read yet? Mine was reading by the time he was five.” How do you think your child feels when he is compared with his sibling? I would guess similar to how you would feel. Upset? Frustrated? Full of self-doubt? These may be just a few of the many that come up.

Comparison makes the assumption that one person is better than another because of who he appears to be, what he has, etc. It makes the assumption that I am better than you, or you are better than me. You can substitute the “I am” for “what I have” or “what I did” is better.

Why do we think that one child is better than another? Is it that they learn faster, act differently, or are taller? Yes everybody’s different; that's what makes each of us a unique and amazing individual. But why is different better or worse? Is an orange better than an apple? Is an oak tree worse than a maple tree? You may have a preference for one over another, yet can you tell me why it is better or worse than the other?

When you compare your child with another child, it diminishes his self-esteem. Each child is an individual. The only person they can be compared to is themselves.

When we compare our children to others, they learn to compare themselves to others and become self judgmental. This pattern can follow them throughout life as a “guilty complex” leading them to believe, “No matter what I do, I am not good enough”. There is a saying, “To compare is to despair”.

Here are some of the dangers of comparison (click on the links to read some great articles).

Instead of comparing one child to another, try one of the following:

Appreciate and be grateful for individual uniqueness, it is the spice of life.

Bhagavan Bauer

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