Have you had the experience of confusion about what action to take?
Recently, I have been feeling that way. There have been times in my life when I have been very structured. Why am I currently struggling with it? Upon reflection I became aware of a few things.
The structure I had in the past was overly rigid. I would become frustrated and upset with myself if I couldn’t keep precisely to what was written down. Being overly structured, left little flexibility for life's spontaneous occurrences and therefore it was not as sustainable. After a few months of this, I just couldn't take it anymore and would go to the other extreme of not scheduling anything. This method, in turn, left room for “creativity” didn’t help me create the results I wanted to manifest, in my life.
How many times had I done this in my life? After reflecting, I noticed this had become a recurring pattern.
As I’ve mentioned again and again, awareness is the first step of change.
I noticed that neither extreme was working for me. Now, that I noticed what wasn't working the key was to become clear on what I wanted to create.
What called to me was to create “structured sustainable balance”.
That sounds fancy, but what does it mean? To me, this means, setting up a scheduled balanced structure that includes the different important areas of my life (family, health, exercise, spiritual practice, work) allowing room for spontaneity, as well.
The challenge I have been coming up against is the fear of going to the extremes, again. I see the flip-flopping I've done and wish to end the cycle .
So,where to begin?
I’ve chosen to first start by creating a support system for myself. As a coach I know well the benefits of having support and accountability. With support I can see if I am being too rigid or hard on myself when it doesn't turn out the way I planned. Some of the things I’m incorporating into my life are developing courage and taking action in spite of the fear and creating daily habits, such as taking 10 minutes a day to focus on what is important to me.
I invite your support. If you have experienced something similar, how have you managed it?
What has worked for you to get beyond a fear or something that has “stopped” you from living life fully?
How do you schedule your life?
Taking one step at a time,
Bhagavan